Finding love isn’t a stroke of luck.

Confession time: I was a huge fan of Sex and the City. Every year, I would watch the lives of Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda unfold, enjoying the glitz and thrill of their adventures.

I began to question whether the show had set unrealistic standards for my own life, inadvertently turning me into a character in my own version of Sex and the City.

While Sex and the City and other similar TV shows have undoubtedly entertained and captivated audiences, it is crucial to acknowledge their potential impact on societal perceptions of love, relationships, and self-worth. By normalizing toxic relationship dynamics, setting unrealistic standards, neglecting personal growth, and perpetuating gender stereotypes, these shows may inadvertently contribute to the perpetuation of unhealthy relationship patterns in real life.

As I grow older, I’ve come to understand that if soulmates do exist, finding them isn’t just a matter of luck; it requires hard work. It’s not about stumbling upon someone who is exactly like you or who loves you unconditionally. It’s about putting in the effort, having countless conversations, and making continuous efforts to make the relationship thrive.

Sometimes it’s about hard work. Like really hard work.

There are no set rules for relationships. Each one is unique and develops its own dynamics. There’s no “right” or “wrong” way to love. As long as it works for you, keep going, even if your love story doesn’t make headlines in The New York Times or fit into the “couple goals” of teenagers, even if others may deem it toxic. This is your life, your love. Focus on it, and as long as it feels peaceful, balanced, and like home, keep nurturing it.

Maybe finding love isn’t a stroke of luck, but finding someone committed to growing that love is indeed a stroke of luck