The heat of the moment is a dangerous thing. I’m sure there is a word, that would describe how confident you are about the accuracy of your feelings, developing within the time you are in, at that moment. We visualize our future, plan our life, develop hundreds of strategies for reaching our goals and dreams, and eventually, we proudly advise our peers to “never give up on their dreams”. While at the same time, keeping up with our spiritual journey map, we do our best to BE PRESENT, LIVE THE MOMENT and effortlessly try NOT TO EXPECT ANYTHING FROM ANYONE.
Okay, I get it, that’s totally fine and natural.
Maybe it’s an instinct: you are sure that your decisions, goals, and feelings are accurate enough for long-term practice. After all, that’s what we want, right?
Yes, we never give up the big dream, we always remember why we started and we all know: It’s a process. Good things happen to those, who wait. This big dream becomes that engine, driving us through those heavy, difficult, and laborious roads. Yet somehow, while spinning in this process of never giving up the dream, we lose the engine. And we still, continue to fight, never questioning THE BIG DREAM. It’s been 10 years, who does that? Self-denial was never my thing!
And we position ourselves as warriors , heroes, cuz “We did that”
We find our dream job, we buy our dream house, we travel, we fall in love, we find THE ONE, we get married, we have kids, and here comes the REGRET. We start questioning everything we have, by questioning WHO WE ARE and WHAT WE ACTUALLY WANT.
Eventually, we find ourselves lost in irrelevant dreams and goals, that we managed to reach by never giving up. (Hurray!)
In Digital Human, Aleks Krotoski explores regret – that sinking, nagging feeling we get when we realize we have made the wrong choice, or when things have not gone the way we hoped or imagined they would.
So, here is the thing: How to be sure that your choice has or needs to have a lifetime guarantee?
But, rather than trying to eradicate this negative feeling, is it something we should learn to embrace?
